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Your Profile for Internet Dating

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The biggest challenge you will face, when it comes to an internet dating site, will be creating your profile. It's quite difficult to try and come up with words on a screen that define both who we are and what we are looking for in another person. Here are some general tips to help you tackle this task:-
  • Think about meeting someone for the first time who you have an interest in at a coffee shop or at a party. Imagine what you would say to help describe yourself to the other person. This is exactly the sort of approach you want to take when you write your profile.

  • You want to keep your profile brief, but interesting. The ideal length of an online dating site profile is 200 to 350 words. You want to use 150 to 250 of those words for describing yourself. Then use 50 to 100 words to describe the type of person you are seeking.

  • You will garner interest by utilizing the body of the profile to its fullest potential. Most profiles are very poorly written. You can use this to your advantage. If you write a stellar profile, you will stand head and shoulders above the rest of your competition.

  • Use AIDA in your profile: Attention-Interest-Desire-Action. This is a four step process that will help you to stand out among your competition on the internet dating site of your choice. If you apply these principles to your profile you should get some quality results.

  • Don't be afraid to throw some humor in. However, only use humor if it's natural to you. Some people just don't have a flair for humor, and that's okay if that's how you are. Remember, this is your chance to flirt, to have fun, and tell the world about you.
Some of the specific things that you should aim to write in your profile include:-
  • You should definitely mention what you do for a living, and what you aspire to do, but you want to be careful with this topic. One of the challenges about writing your online profile is to not have it come off sounding like a resume. You want to take a kind of matter-of-fact approach, but you don't want it to be stuffy or boring, and remember that you're looking for a relationship, not a job!

  • Obviously, mention any hobbies or activities you like to engage in. Mention any civic or professional groups you may belong to.

  • If you have children, you should definitely talk about them in your profile. You can mention their age and where they live. You can mention something specific about them like: "I have a 12 year old son who lives with his mother in New York City, and loves to play soccer". However, don't get carried when writing about your kids - remember, this profile is supposed to about you.

  • You should also about any pets you have. Most likely, they are an important part of your life, and you want someone who's reading your profile to know you have pets. Again, this isn't something you want to overdo. Something like: "I have a very friendly 3 year old male Collie named Danny who enjoys going to the beach and park with me".

  • Be unique. Instead of saying "I like to go to the movies", say: "My favorite movie is The Godfather. It's my favorite movie because you can't go wrong with Marlon Brando, Robert Duvall, and Al Pacino acting in the same movie. I think the acting, the cinematography, the musical score, and the writing are superior, even to most movies released today." Which sounds better to you?

  • One more example, instead of "I like going out to eat", use, "When it comes to eating, I really like to go to Fred's Place. My favorite sandwich there is the Philly Steak Sub. The steak is mouth watering; it's always cooked to perfection. They always put a heaping pile of mozzarella cheese on it. The freshly chopped green peppers and onions are the perfect toppers to this delicious sandwich. Do you get the picture?

  • You should try to create desire within someone by trying to make a connection with them. For example, if you have a parent of a particular ethnic heritage, mention it. Someone reading your profile who shares that same ethnicity will have a desire to share the heritage they have in common with you. Another example is if you are originally from another part of the country, you should mention it. If someone reading your profile is originally from there, or has relatives there, they will feel a connection to you.

  • Always be sure to mention exactly what you are looking for in a relationship within the ad. If you're looking for a serious or long-term relationship don't be afraid to say so. If you're just looking to date around and have some no strings attached fun, don't be afraid to say so. Remember, the goal of the ad is to attract the type of people who are looking for the same things as you. You don't want someone who is looking for a serious relationship contacting you if that's not what you want, and vice-versa.

  • You must create a strong call to action at the closing of your profile. For example, "If you like what you've read, don't just sit there like a bump on a log, you big dummy, send me a message and tell me what's going on with you!". You can spend some time reading through other's profiles and looking for strong closings which you can use to inspire your own closing.

  • Another strong way of closing is the filter strong call, for example: "So, if you're an athletic, 22 to 31 year old, non-smoking, woman who is as big of a health nut as me, send me a message so we can set up a race to see who pays for dinner that night. ;)" As you can see, this closing helps to ensure you get a message from someone in the age range 22 to 31, a non-smoker, someone who is athletic, health conscious, and someone who doesn't mind being a little competitive. It's fun, a little humorous, and a little flirty.

  • Most importantly, just be yourself. Don't try to be something or someone you're not. You won't attract the right type of people by doing it, and you'll only end-up cheating yourself.
Here are some pitfalls to watch out for when writing your profile:-
  • Avoid negativity in your ad at all costs! When it comes to internet dating sites, people are looking for upbeat, positive, fun, people to be around, and negativity in your profile will simply put them off.

    The types of things that you should avoid are statements such as "Are there any good guys left? I think all men are nothing but a bunch of liars and cheaters." Or, "I really can't stand the stuck-up women at the bars and clubs so I figured I'd give the online dating thing a chance." Even if you really feel that way, or think that way, delete them out of your profile instantly. You'll be doing yourself a big favor.

  • The other big thing to avoid in your profile are bland generalities. I'm sure you've heard these before: "I'm a really fun, outgoing, person who likes to eat out and go to the movies and take walks on the beach." This profile is just like thousands of hours, has absolutely nothing to make it stand out, and simply will get passed over very quickly.
Does this sound like a lot of work? It could be. The fact is that you need to put some work in, and spend some time writing, and editing to get your profile right. But is it worth it? Absolutely! Try it, you'll be amazed at the results that a high quality profile can achieve.

Note: If you're struggling to write a great profile, why not take a look at ProfileIdea (which is reviewed here). It contains over 1,250 pre-written by fully customizable sentences which you can use to spice up your profile, and help you stand out from the crowd.

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